Potty Training Tools for Independence

Biodegradable potty chair from Beco

 

Learning to use the toilet is an exciting time for a child. As the parent, you can help the process go as smoothly as possible by communicating clearly and having the right tools available

For a toddler, potty training is about independence. If you push using the toilet, chances are your toddler will exercise choice by choosing not to use the toilet. Acknowledge that this is your child’s choice, and you will both avoid stress. This should be an exciting time rather than a stressful time.

We carry a few toilet learning basics that we love—and that our customers love.

Training Pants

In general, training pants catch accidents. They are lightweight, designed to be worn under clothes, and easy for a child to pull down and up. Some of the training pants we carry make it easy to add extra inserts for absorbency. Thin stretchy sides help give a snug, leak-free fit—and the absorbency goes down the center where it is needed.

Super Undies Pullup or Snap-on Training Pants
Super Undies pull up pants

Adorable Super Undies are designed for a child’s independence. The pass-through pocket makes it easy to add extra absorbency, like a prefold diaper or a diaper insert. We find the pull-up style easiest for a child to use alone, but we understand snap-on (snaps in the back) can be helpful when you need to remove messy training pants. We carry both Pull-up and Snap-on training pants.

Absorbency: 3-4 layers of microfiber (number of layers depends on size)
Made in USA

Bummis Potty Pants
Bummis training pants

Bummis potty training pants are very trim. They look like underwear, and they fit easily under clothing. Stretchy side panels mean the sizing is adjustable, but we have 4 sizes for children 18-35+ lbs. Easy for a child to pull off and on. Use extra absorbency for nighttime.

Absorbency: 1 layer of loopy cotton terry and one layer of microfiber
Made in Canada with materials sourced in North America

Motherease Cloth Training Pants
Motherease potty training pants

For lightweight protection, Motherease training pants look like underwear. An inside layer of absorbent cotton terry, the same used in Motherease diapers, is covered with a waterproof polyester layer. Full fit. Easy to pull on and off.

Absorbency: cotton terry
Made in Canada

Overnight Training Pants

Overnight pants or bedwetter pants have more absorbency, which means more bulk. These will fit under pajamas, but they might be too big to fit easily under some clothes.

Motherease Bedwetter Pants
Motherease nighttime training pants

Motherease overnight training pants have a full fit, which works well for chubby thighs. The soaker is attached front and pant but not in the center, so it is easy to clean. Trim enough to fit well under snug pajamas.

Absorbency: 3-layer cotton soaker
Made in Canada

Super Undies Bedwetting Pants
Super Undies Bedwetter pants

Internal soaker can be folded in front for boys or wrapped all the way around the back for girls. It’s easy to add more absorbency for super nighttime accident protection, but most children won’t need added absorbency. If you unsure of size, size up.

Absorbency: 6 layers of microfiber
Made in USA

Potty Chair

Does your child need a small potty before learning to use the full-sized toilet? Not necessarily. You need to be sensitive to each child’s needs. The adult toilet can be big and intimidating to a young child, though, and you want to be sure that it is as easy as possible for your child to take action independently. A potty chair can help with that.

Biodegradable BecoPotty

BecoPotty chair

What do you do with a potty chair when you are done? How about planting it in the garden. The BecoPotty is made from about 80% waste material, including bamboo and rice husks that are usually thrown away. We love that reuse of waste products for a product you won’t need very long. Decomposition usually takes 2-3 years, depending on the environment. High back and curvy shape make this potty chair comfortable and easy to use.

Beco Kids Step Stool

Beco Step potty stool

When your child is ready to use the big toilet, it can help to have a potty stool. This not only helps get to the seat but gives a child a place to put feet so their legs aren’t hanging and uncomfortable while they sit. The stool is made from the same bamboo and rice husk plastic as the BecoPotty. When you are finished, plant it.

For more help, see our article on Potty Training Basics.

Potty Training Basics

Child holding potty seat

If you have a baby and you think you don’t need to know about potty training, think again. Helping your child learn to use the toilet is a lot easier if you’ve prepared. Now is the time to prepare.

Communicate Openly and Gently

I think the most important preparation you can do for potty training and for most other parenting is to create a foundation of good communication. It takes more time than just telling your child what to do, sure, but it’s worth the relationship you are building.

These are the habits I find most important for those early communication preparations.

  • Open conversation – Do you welcome questions? (“Mommy, why do you sit on the potty instead of wearing a diaper?”)
  • Compassion about issues – Do you calmly help when your child has an accident or has trouble when doing something that s/he was asked not to? (“Mommy, I made a mess.”)
  • Supportive and helpful – Do you offer help when asked? (“Mommy, would you help me?”)
  • Encouraging of independence – Do you ask your child to try alone once you’ve shown how to do something? (“You can do it like this. Now, you try.”)

Even if your child isn’t verbal yet, you communicate with one another. You can respond when needed and give space when needed.

If you have already been responsive in your parenting, it will be a lot easier for your child to learn to use the toilet. If there is less mystery around the tools and the process, it won’t be so intimidating. Or, if it does feel intimidating to the child, you can encourage those brave moments of trying something new in a safe situation.

Of course, this kind of open communication with your child will help you both now, during potty training, during those difficult years (whichever difficult years they might be), and into your adult parent-child relationship in the future. It isn’t special to potty training, but I found it an important part of my family’s positive potty experience.

Start When Your Child Is Ready

Is your child ready for potty training? More to the point, are YOU ready for potty training? If you haven’t learned that teaching is easier when your student is ready to learn, you might want to work on your own awareness first.

If you start before you child is ready, it will be a frustrating experience for you both. I watched a friend push her one-year-old to use the toilet while he pushed back by squatting in the middle of her hard wood floor every chance he got, leaving them both in tears most days. I just remember the screaming from them both. It was such a painful situation to witness that my reaction was to back off even further from encouraging my children to use the toilet. All I did was point out where the tiny toilet was, tell my child what it was for, show where the underwear were in the drawer next to diapers, and leave it at that. In the end, after she experimented with the potty on the floor, my daughter told me when it was time to switch—not start training but switch. One day she wore diapers, and the next day she wore underwear. There were accidents, but we took care of them.

Signs your child might be ready:

  • Regular dry diapers
  • Pulls pants up and down
  • Curious about your use of the toilet

Your child will already be familiar with the toilet or with a child’s potty if you’ve been using Infant Pottying—also called EC (Elimination Communication) or just diaper free. More important, though, you and your child will both be aware of the signals that even a very small baby gives before urinating or passing stool. Rather than ignoring or even suppressing these signs, you take advantage of them in infant pottying. The process of your child learning to use the toilet independently will be fairly seamless if you’ve already acknowledged together what it feels like to need to void and how to respond.

The Stuff to Put in Place

Potty. You don’t necessarily need a small toilet or a child seat for your full-size toilet, but it could be one step in the process. We love the Beco Biodegradable Potty Seat. Your child will use the potty for such a short time, and you needn’t worry about creating plastic waste because you can plant this in the garden and watch it break down.

Step Stool. If you don’t have a small potty, you may need a step up to the toilet. My kids used a yoga brick. We also carry a Beco step stool, which is useful in a lot of places where your child needs a few extra inches to use the adult-sized equipment.

Underwear. Training pants with extra absorbency are helpful for that transition period. You might be able to avoid the training pants by adding a diaper insert to regular underwear, but it might be more difficult for your child to be independent when there are several pieces that need to go together correctly. We love the new Bummis training pants and Super Undies trainers, which come in snap-on or pull-up styles.

There are a lot of other products you can buy to encourage, reward, and otherwise pressure your child to use the toilet, but I think that puts too much emphasis on this short phase—and more pressure on your wallet than is necessary.

Using the toilet shouldn’t be a such a big deal that your child gets into a pattern of needing and wanting praise for meeting simple developmental milestones.

Potty Learning or Potty Training?

Some say that calling this process “potty training” puts the emphasis too much on your role as a parent, while “potty learning” focuses on the child’s own process. I agree! Call it whatever fits for you. Just understand that you might have to explain if you use a phrase other than that commonly used. That can be a good thing if you want to start a conversation.

Is It Potty Time?

If you have good communication with your child, your child is showing signs of readiness, and you have a few helpful tools in place, maybe it’s potty time.

Have I made it sound simple? I hope so. It was simple for my famly. When I saw signs of trouble, I ignored them. I didn’t want to focus on a resistant child, creating a more resistant child and a combative relationship between us, so I just let go until my child told me it was time. What’s the rush?

If you had a different kind of experience, please do share. I don’t want to assume that everyone will have the same easy time with potty learning that my two children did.

We carry tools for potty training independence.

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